After a few seasons of shooting weddings you begin to pick up on a few scenarios that people typically tend to forget about until that moment arrives. Here are my 5 tips to help you avoid these common afterthoughts.
Pack a Picnic . . . and booze, lots of booze. Odds are that by the time you are whisked off to do your bridal party and couple's photos you'll be wishing you were back at cocktail hour so you can throw back some drinks and devour those tasty little shrimp cakes you specifically picked out. To avoid this, delegate someone not in the bridal party to bring over a picnic hamper filled with snacks and drinks from the reception. This will help hold everyone over until the photos are done.
Bring Cute Comfy Shoes . . . Bride I’m looking at you. This really comes into play for the couple’s portrait session (when there’s quite a bit of walking down paths or into the woods) and reception (when you’ll be breaking it down on the dance floor). Come on girls, we’ve all come to that point in the night with our shoes when we hit a wall and taking one more step just seems to your feet like the most unfathomable thing. Having a cute pair of comfy shoes that you can swap out if need be gives those tootsies a much needed break so you can tell those blisters “oh, hell no!” I actually did this as a bridesmaid, wearing my sexier high heels for the ceremony and formal photos and then switched to a comfy pair of wedges later in the night (because I’m short and like to take advantage of the height, hah).
Suck at Dancing? Most songs are what like 3 minutes? For those of you who either hate dancing or just feel extremely awkward at it, 3 minutes in the spotlight can feel like an eternityyyy! One thing you can do is request your DJ/Band to fade the music out after the first minute or so. Alternatively you could also have the DJ/Band make an announcement for others to join you on the dance floor so the two of you aren't stuck up there by yourselves for the whole song. Just have a practice in the living room and get a feel for what length of time feels good for you.
Lighting. There are probably an infinite amount of details you could take into consideration when planning a wedding. One that is often overlooked is the lighting. We all know how much lighting sets the mood of the party, whether it’s moody and intimate or an all out rager. It also plays a factor in your photos the later it gets into the night. Something that often looks very nice and allows the decor and room to really pop in your photos is having some sort of lighting element on the tables and lining the molding.
Shit hits the fan and it's way more common than you think. Things often go wrong at weddings and you as the Bride (or Groom) should try not to get too caught up in it. Like for example, if the caterer screws up your wedding cake order and it arrives bright purple with Scooby-Doo flowers on it instead of creamy white with that elegant scrolled piping you dreamed about from the magazines. Yea that would really suck but at least you and your guests still got a cake (and hey it will probably end up being on the house!). The point is don't let the trivial things ruin your fun because at the end of the day that's what a wedding is supposed to be!